How International Men's Day Should Probably Work

I clicked on the "International Men's Day" trend on twitter earlier, and while there were some tweets celebrating men and what not there were a lot of angry, revengeful tweets against the celebration of the day.

Now I'm well aware of the world and how things in society are and I agree with the difficulties women face on a daily basis, but are we not all fighting for equality in some form? Why is a day like today being used as a vessel of negativity?  Again, I understand why, but that kind of mentality doesn't make it easy for men or people in general.

I believe I have achieved some great things on my own as a man, but after seeing some of those tweets I don't want to talk about it in fear that I'll be lambasted by an army of women's right tweeters. I feel like it's almost become frowned upon to celebrate yourself as a man. 

So, instead of bashing International Men's Day why can't we all work towards encouraging men to fight for a common cause - women's rights. At the same time also let men celebrate their personal victories without schooling them on the daily hardships women face. We know, or at least I do. 

Now before you get all anti on this, remember that equality works for everything and everyone. I believe that talking down on someone and speaking angrily and even sarcastically on such a topic is not the correct approach. Open, honest and calm conversation is the way to go. I am willing to do what I have to to help those in need, but at the same time I am also human and have shit to deal with albeit more minor shit than others.

Long story (which you already ready, sorry) short - Don't be kak be lekker. If we encourage people to work together towards a common cause rather than confront them things will be a lot easier and maybe even move faster.

The world is overflowing with negativity and rage. This needs to stop. 

"Man" and "woman" both contain the word "man" because we are all human. Lame but true. 

I don't know, it's just an idea. 

High School For Adults

Maybe I'm trippin', but when I scroll through my Twitter feed I see high school.
I see cool kids, I see "nerds", I see the smarty pants, I see cliques, I see cool kids, I see passive-aggressive comments aimed at "friends" and frenemies alike. 

I often think to myself, "I'm almost 30, most of the people I interact with are aged between mid 20s to mid 30s and everyone still acts so silly". I find more people having arguments about stupid things rather than just having an unbiased, open conversation. It's all about how much more right one person can be or how hard they can school you for being wrong, well,in their eyes at least.
Why can't we just talk and teach each other lessons without having to come off better than the other person for being so "intellectual"?

Sometimes I feel like people are too scared to share their thoughts because other people might aggressively question them and attack them for thinking what they do. I know I do. It's so easy to be a tough cat on the internet, but why would you want to be? Everyone is fighting for equality but no one wants to treat people equally on an intellectual level.  

Just a thought - What if we actually spoke to each other instead of questioned each other? Reading someone's tone online is damn near impossible. But less use of exclamation marks and strategic caps can change a lot.
Maybe I'm overthinking this, but we need to learn how to talk to each other properly.

How To Not Be Kak

Every day we internet and there is kak. There are kak stories, kak music ( to some), kak photos, kak videos, kak blog posts, kak websites and kak people among other kak things. This might be one of the afore mentioned kak things, but whatever.

Here are three tips to not be kak. Be kak if you wish, but be kak on your own. 

1. Don't wake up on the kak side of the bed.

If you wake up in a kak mood do something you think isn't kak. Like eat your favourite cereal, drink coffee, have a poo or go for a run. We all have things that we enjoy doing that we think are not kak. If you struggle to find a not kak thing to do then go back to sleep until you don't feel kak anymore.

2. Don't let the kak get on you.

You get a flat tire or you shart in your pants on the way to work, or you drop your lunch on a dirty carpet. Or maybe your double capufrappelatteflatty was mistakenly made with almond milk instead of soy milk. Or your favourite bagel place has run out of Norwegian salmon and only has poppy seed bagels left. These things happen and they happen to everyone. Don't let those kak things make your day kak. It could have happened to anyone but it happened to you that one time, this is what makes life fair. Kak things happen to all people and it will inevitably be your turn at one point.
When these things happen take a step back and say to yourself, "Today IS my day. Tomorrow can only be better". A wise person once said, "Shit gets kak. Rivers flow. Deal."

3. If you want to be kak then stay off the internet.