Okay, to some this may serve as an explanation. But it's nothing like that at all, so take it as you will.
Life makes some dramatic changes. Changes that can affect your life without you even knowing. And no one is entirely to blame for that, it just happens...
Once you get your first real job things change too fast for you to even notice. Time disappears, days become a blur and your nights are the only thing you have left. And this is where shit gets strange for some people.
When your timeless blurry day ends, you get home and you collapse onto your bed and just hang. It's a good feeling, right? The feeling of nothingness. Ah, too cool! And after your crappy day, you want nothing more to relax. And why shouldn't you?
Some people find no understanding in why others would not want to go out and rather just stay in. Don't get me wrong, I love partying, and I'd do it every night if I could. But firstly, no one has to party all the time. Secondly, nights are most people's only free time. And finally, some would rather blow the money on something they can remember. There are the odd occasions where one will let loose and go all out, and everyone needs to do that once in a while.
Now that we have that cleared up, I move on to my real point. Sorry to keep you waiting, but you saw how long the text was...
We all have a bunch of friends that we love like our family. It could be two, it could be 50, but we all have them. And sharing time between your x-amount of friends, work, family, partners etc it becomes hard to please everyone. And once again, that's no one's fault. For instance, I have friends that I'll see once every month or two. And it's not because they live far, or I don't enjoy their company. It's because I can't. But I love those friends. In fact, if they weren't my friends, my life would suck pretty hard. I'm sure/ I hope they understand why we don't see each other every night or weekend.
We're becoming adults. It's sad but true. Although I'll always consider myself a boy, I am becoming an adult. And no matter how shit it is, it has to be done. This is where the issue of time and friendship lies.
To be brutally honest, a real friend will understand that each person has their own life. They have their own way of dealing with things, their own way of managing their time and their own way of deciding when to party. And if you can't understand that, then you need to re-evaluate your situation. Selfishness will get you nowhere.
I have dealt with such issues recently, and I'm sure some people who read this will understand what I mean and understand that no matter what, I'll still love them. And if others are offended by it, then fine, be lame.
If this entry makes any sense to you at all, I'll be happy. I suppose all I really want to say is - if you can't let other people live their own lives, you can't live yours.
To my friends, I love you no matter how much of a dickhead you can be. So deal with it.
C
